NO LIKEY, NO LIGHTY!

[silvaeri]

totally makes sense, i could never put into words what i found weird about coffee dates, also just did them because it takes no effort or thought to be like "hey you like coffee, i like coffee, let's get coffee sometime"

[stappard_]

Farms are 100% the best first date venue. There is no possible way of a conversation running dry when you have animals to look at.

[rjbman]

Or "Hey, you like coffee, and I'll pretend to like coffee so I don't have to come up with an original date, we should get coffee!"

[ramseames]

Coffee/dinner/other things where you're in one place are fine for first dates. I've never had a first date where we ran out of stuff to talk about and that wasn't a sign of things to come.

[odradek]

Dinner as a first date, never. You've trapped her into a meal. You've trapped yourself into a meal. She hates your blazer and jeans combo because she's not some depraved goon and has successfully ejected thanks to a planned phone call from her friend. She's getting ice cream and drinks and telling her girls all about you between giggles and gasps and you have to eat alone.

[stappard_]

... Meanwhile, in a parallel universe, you're having a great time at the farm talking about your favourite goats. She's laughing. She's touching your arm.

[ramseames]

The goats are just a ruse, distracting you from the fact that you really don't have that much in common. See past the goats

[UnwashedMolasses]

See past the need for the date to be successful, see yourself having fun with a stranger you have nothing in common with instead of awkward silent mastication

Goatz 4 lyfe

[oldtrailmix]

im in college and we're not allowed cars how the fuck do u people expect me to get to a farm

[Stingray Sam]

No offense guys, but unless you're talking about those little miniature goats, which are more like teddy bears than goats, goats suck. They have creepy eyes, scream at you weird, follow you around etc. Going to an orchard clearly superior. Especially if it's an apple orchard in fall. You can pick apples, walk around in the chilly weather, buy gourds, go through a corn maze, watch people make apple cider etc. Plus there is a marked lack of animal feces to step in

Edit: Then I guess we'll never be friends

[zayg]

my ex gf constantly posts pictures of goats on instagram

goats are the key apparently, at least with that girl

[blanket]

so romantic

[bels]

Isn't any first date idea other than "Drinks" considered trying to hard?

Get a drink together, if things are going well get another and then go for an evening walk, if not go home.

I have only ever been on two first dates.

EDIT: three.

[Iliam]

a first date by

[edward]

http://threewordphrase.com

[maj]

what does the caretags person wear on a date 1 year later?

is "post skate" the ideal date outfit?

funky long coat with lapels

cropped trew for quirky character to replace ur inability to hold a decent convo

trainers to to signal you're not to up your own arse

[rjbman]

dont forget a pin / patch

[can-]

post skater archetype with some nice anime porn on your coat.

[can-]

floral garms to sign that you're shy but still want to be the center of attention

[tomsfood]

dark jeans and a blazer

[UnwashedMolasses]

Wearing clothing you wouldn't otherwise wear for the sake of getting somebody to like a version of you that doesn't exist is lame in my eyes. Wear the most flattering thing you would normally wear.

(Would love to hear some counterpoint though.)

[oucho]

What version of me does exist??

[odradek]

the version of you that "doesn't exist" actually only exists on first dates. maybe second dates, too.

[BIGBEE]

gonna get supreme hentai stuff for first dates so they know what they're getting into

[UnwashedMolasses]

[weqe]

ur tru self is ur blu self

[meatjacket]

cashmere sweaters guarantee a longer hug (which is important, embrace them)

[ramseames]

[can-]

i wore my slutty +j collared shirt where the nips show on a first date and we've been dating for 5 months YMMV IANAL

[bels]

The idea of an expressible self is very convenient to people who sell to express this self with.

First date outfit has to have a blue shirt. No ifs, no buts.