by popcorn » Tue Jul 25, 2017 1:24 am
I like Iliam's post because it finally reacts to the rampant power-posturing that Bela has characterized this thread with.
Of course it is good to be powerful. (Edit: see footnote) An ideal first date projection would be that of a regal warlord commanding a large military that is not answerable to any state. However, some people cannot present themselves as a wealthy, broad-shouldered protectorate.
The alternative approach should be the polar opposite. Instead of a doting patron, you must become the romantic refugee. You are a hole, the uncanny absence of love. Because of this character, you will attract affection like a vacuum. You wear clothing that is soft and disproportionately large in the scale of your frame. As a matter of fact, your frame does not matter. Representative of your character, your coat should provide enough room for another person. Your frame is hidden so completely that you do not display as much of a human being (your physical reality will be discovered much later), but as something innocent and pure beyond the system of competition that you have effectively shrugged off and subverted. You are not competing for or with your (prospective) romantic partner, but offering them a chance at a partnership that is mutually felt and abstract in practice. The date, as well, is anti-formalist and takes place in a home. Preferably the home is neither yours nor your partner's. Consider wearing a blanket. Consider speaking a language your partner does not. Speak in plain language or free verse. Do not attempt humor.
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EDIT: I accidentally said that it is good to be powerful. It is good for oneself to be powerful. It is not good to be powerful.